The Dos and Don’ts During a Divorce in Texas

One of the biggest mistakes you can make when divorcing is thinking you can “do it on your own” and failing to get legal representation. Retaining the best lawyer from one of the best legal firms in San Antonio, TX is the smartest thing you can do to ensure a solid start to a new life and future. The attorneys of Allen & Roig, LLP, have the legal expertise to negotiate on your behalf, fight for all you are entitled to, take your case to trial if needed, and see that your agreements are binding. We also advise you on your role so you can move confidently through the divorce process. Here are a few of the Dos and Don’ts that we recommend to our clients:

Dos and Don’ts

Children
  • Don’t – Use children to punish or manipulate your spouse! This happens even unintentionally and will have a negative impact on the relationship you have with your children.
  • Do! – Understand the children are an important part of the divorce process. Although it may be difficult, keep your behavior in check at all times. Be a good role model and represent positive values, even during difficulties. Children from well-adjusted divorced parents are better off than children who are living with unhappy parents who stay together for “the sake of the kids.”
Legal and Financial Documents
  • Don’t – Rely on electronic copies. You could lose information because of a password mishap or be locked out of an account by your spouse.
  • Do! – Make hard copies of all your financial and legal documents before your divorce proceedings begin. Keep them in a secure location.
Spending
  • Don’t – Continue with the same spending habits as before, deplete assets, or think that you can out-maneuver your spouse when it comes to money.
  • Do! – Acknowledge your financial position will be changing. Concentrate on living within a budget and downgrade spending wherever possible.
Social Media
  • Don’t – Display any negative comments. Everything you say, do, post, tweet, text, or snap creates a footprint. These could be used against you in divorce proceedings.
  • Do! – Be careful about how you use social media accounts including photos, shares, and comments. Step back from your own posting habits and with your frequency in viewing other people’s posts, too.
Emotions
  • Don’t – Let emotions dictate your actions or take them out on your spouse, children, pets, or personal property.
  • Do! – Recognize this is a stressful time. Your emotions are very understandable and part of the healing and adjustment process. It is ok to be proactive about seeking professional counseling.
Family and Friends
  • Don’t – Rely on family and friends for financial and legal advice. That input will not necessarily apply to you and creates further confusion and stress.
  • Do! – Understand that family and friends are good emotional and moral support during divorce, but take your time about deciding who you talk to about it and when.
Relationships
  • Don’t – Jump into romantic relationships, but if you already have, consider slowing down or putting things on hold. Focus on what is best for you.
  • Do! – Reflect on what you want to do with your future. Don’t demand that your current friends take sides. Understand that relationships may change during and after your divorce.
Drama
  • Don’t – Get wrapped up in little things and forget what is important. The more you and your spouse argue over issues, the more expensive and emotional the whole divorce process will be.
  • Do! – Concentrate on hard facts with regard to your financial future and the best interests of the children. It will pay off in the long run.

Meet with Allen & Roig, LLP

The attorneys of Allen & Roig, LLP will guide you through the process of divorce and counsel you about the many other issues you may face. Our compassionate and aggressive representation will ensure that your rights and best interests are always protected. The better prepared you are, the better off you will be as you move on after your divorce. Call us today!